There’s nothing sexier than a woman with GUTS.



It’s a deadly one-two-three puncha veritable recipe for living a meaning-full and purpose-full life.

It starts with guts, Girlfriend.

You know those times when you’re thinking you can’t do “it” because you’re afraid, or embarrassed, or worried about what They will think?

How about when you’re feeling overwhelmed and frustrated because “something” isn’t working?

Those feelings are your first clue that an AFGO* has come knocking at your door. And if there is one thing that is certain in this life, you need to answer that door; otherwise, it will just keep on knocking.

And knocking.

And knocking.

Not losing weight? AFGO.

Not making money? AFGO.

Not “feelin’ it” in your marriage? AFGO.

Someone bossing you around? AFGO.

It takes a serious dose of GUTS to answer the door when an AFGO comes knocking. Those growth opportunities can sting like a bee the size of Atlanta.

Sometimes, they can even bring us to our knees.

Listen up, Girlfriend. That’s when you have to grit your teeth, squint your eyes, and clench your fists. And come hell or high water…


Answer the door, woman. Don’t take your feelings at face value. You’re not six anymore (even though it sure feels like it at times, doesn’t it?). We are not helpless. We are not powerless. Just because we’re feeling embarrassed doesn’t mean the embarrassment is warranted. Feelings are not an excuse to curl up in a ball and do nothing. Feelings are opportunities to grow our asses up once and for all.

Be gutsy. Take off the blinders and get curious about what’s really going on behind the curtain of your own mind. What is it making you believe about you?

Chances are, your mind is telling you a whole lot of non-sense that’s holding you back. The trash talk you thought made sense when you were six (or sixteen) NO LONGER MAKES SENSE now that we have a fully functioning adult mind, that can make sense out of non-sense.

It takes GUTS to challenge your own mind. Why? Because it means we’re no longer going to believe what our parents told us, or our teachers, or our best friends. Who are we then, when we no longer settle for embarrassed and afraid and small?

Here’s how to find out:

  • Put up your website with your name and picture shouting out loud that you are here, on the Internet, for all the world to see. Sit with the discomfort that comes up and stay curious: there’s so much to learn about you in that AFGO moment.
  • Get healthy and strong and take care of your body… it deserves your care. Notice what makes you struggle… that’s your AFGO; answer the door!
  • Ditch the frustration and overwhelm and get to the root of “the problem” and solve it. Indulging in the frustration and the overwhelm will not help you. Expect more from yourself.
  • Stop being mad at the people you love. No matter how much you disagree with who they choose to be, love them anyway… or walk away, with love in your heart. Let them be.

These are “big girl” moves; Grown-ass GUTSY WOMAN moves.

You’ve got this.

And I’ve got your back.

L xo

Originally published at on January 15, 2017.

author, lawyer, business strategist for gutsy female entrepreneurs who want MORE