The Mother Hood taught me something BIG: I hadn’t consciously entered The Woman Hood. I still had work to do.
Every “hood” we enter is an experiential state of mind.
The Mother Hood is an obvious transition… hard to ignore that you’ve entered new territory and are now responsible for another human being.
But, the Woman Hood? That’s a transition that is far more subtle. In fact, some women never actually make it into the Hood; they stay in what I call their original “Child Mind” mindset. In other words, they never actually WOMAN UP. They live their lives as adult women, but they don’t think, feel, and act like grown ass women with original thoughts, conscious feelings, and actions that are a reflection of values that she’s fought and stood up for.
We all do it, until we decide to step, with both feet, into the Woman Hood.
I started by asking myself… what does it mean to actually be a woman.
Here’s what I ultimately realized to be true, for me.
First, I had to acknowledge the girl in me. I wasn’t leaving her behind. I promised to return to the Child Hood often, but only when appropriate (“play” time, creative inspiration, brainstorming… my inner child was so good at all of those things). But when it came to the Adult Hood, the adult in me had to take the wheel. Because if there’s one thing I know for sure, a child has no business running an adult life.
That meant I had to really step up and into Adult Hood. And then I could earn my way into the Woman Hood.
The Woman Hood is a big deal.
You’re not entitled to enter it.
You’ve got to earn your way in.
And I don’t mean you have to live up to Other People’s notions of what it means to be a woman. I mean, you have to raise your standards for what it means to be that woman who is living your life.
There’s a lot of responsibility that goes with that, Girlfriend.
And it’s hard to really define what it means to enter the W Hood. To paraphrase the truth about enlightenment:
Before womanhood, chop wood and carry water.
After womanhood, chop wood and carry water.
See the difference? ;)
Nothing really changes when you enter the W Hood… and yet everything changes.
Are you ready to woman UP?
Are you ready to earn your way into this ‘hood? Because it’s not easy. People will try to put you back in your “place.” They’ll want the “old” you — the one they feel safer around.
But the best part about entering the Woman Hood is that no one, and I mean no one, can tell you what to do. But thinking they can, and allowing them to do so, is poison. It’s probably the number one barrier to entry into the ‘hood.
The first step is to believe, with all your heart, that you are capable of making the changes that will allow you to do the things that matter to you, even when others disagree. No one’s saying this is easy, or even that it’s supposed to be. But it is a rite of passage you must make, Girlfriend, if you don’t want to let the depth of what it means to be a woman pass you by.